What’s your Confidence Archetype?
Dr. Angela Trego says confidence is not a trait you are born with. It is a skill. But everyone builds it differently. Five quick questions, then the kit reorders itself around how you build yours.
The Evidence File
From the episode: a mentor had Dr. Trego build an evidence base of her own work. Her career turned 180 degrees after that.
Feelings say “you are not good enough.” Evidence says what actually happened. Ten dated lines. Reread them before any room you dread.
| # | Date | Thing I did | What it required | Who it helped |
|---|
Row 1 is an example. Overwrite it.
Day 1 vs Day 10,000
From the episode: “I was comparing my day one to somebody else’s day ten thousand.”
Imposter syndrome is a comparison error. You measure your beginning against someone else’s decade. The arithmetic ends the comparison.
Them
Me
The Self-Doubt Sorter
From the episode: “There is actually a whole science about the fact that self-doubt helps.” You do not have to eliminate every doubt. You have to sort it.
Type every doubt about the next room. Then tag each one. Useful doubt points at a real gap you can prepare for. Noise is the comparison error wearing a costume.
The Contribution Card
From the episode: the one question to stop asking, and the one to ask instead.
Fill the back before any meeting, interview, or room. Screenshot it. That is your wallet card.
What can I contribute to this table?
Room Rehearsal
From the episode: Esther on being the only one in the room in Utah: “So what? I’m here. Let’s have fun.”
Three sentences, said out loud, before you walk in. Sixty seconds. Nobody hears it but you, and you are the one who needs to.
The 7-Day Courage Ladder
From the episode: “Confidence is a result of taking courage to take action first.” Most people wait to feel confident before they act. Backwards.
One small act a day that needs courage before confidence. Tap the rung the moment it is done. Do not skip a rung to get to a bigger one.
Want the daily nudge on Instagram? DM the word LADDER to @thebrokerstable and each rung arrives in your inbox for seven mornings.
Fail First, Fail Fast
From the episode: “Engineering is fail first, fail fast. Act, figure it out, and go.”
Engineers do not have failures. They have data. Use this on the thing that did not work, and the shame turns into a next step with a date on it.
Don’t Tie Their Shoes
From the bonus conversation: you taught your kids to tie their shoes even though doing it for them was faster. Same with mentoring, managing, parenting.
For the people you lead. Before you step in and do it for them, five questions. If you answer “yes” to three, put your hands in your pockets.
You built this. Now point it somewhere.
You have an evidence file, a card, a rehearsed opening, a week of reps, and a way to turn a flop into a plan. That is not a feeling. That is a skill set. Skills travel.
Listen to the full conversation
Dr. Angela Trego on The Broker’s Table.
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Her book: Squashing the Imposter Syndrome · angelatrego.com
Confidence applied to money
The Esther Effect is where this confidence goes to work on building wealth on purpose.
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